Thursday, August 4, 2011

5 Ways To Keep Your Marriage Exciting

A marriage is one of the most exciting moments in your life. Many people wait their whole lives to have a wedding day, and enjoy every last dance and crumb of cake. Then there are the hundreds of pictures to keep as memories that will last a lifetime. Soon after the honeymoon though, reality begins to set in. You're married now. And despite the best of intentions and all the love that you share for each other, married life can sometimes be a little less than exciting. Your life starts to become routine, and if you're not careful, resentment and dissatisfaction can creep in on an otherwise joyful and loving relationship.

I'm not saying head to the divorce lawyer, but it's crucial for married couples, young and old, new and established, to continue to keep excitement as an important part of the marriage. It's hard to imagine as a newlywed, but marriages don't stay exciting over the years merely on the momentum from the high of the wedding day. This is why couples should take some steps to keep things stimulated. To help get you started, here are 5 ways to keep your marriage exciting.

1. Find A Joint Interest

Getting involved in something together is a wonderful way to have fun, spend time with each other, and expand both your interests. This could be anything from a class together, volunteering for a charitable organization, or perhaps thinking outside the box to something you both thought you'd never be interested in. The best part is, trying out new, fun things together to see what sticks is always a winner. Even if it turns out awful, you have something to laugh about at the end of the day.

2. Keep The Bedroom Spicy

There's no way around it, sex and intimacy are an important part of any adult relationship, especially a marriage. Days of working long hours, stressful jobs, and other routine things have a way of creeping in and spoiling the sex factor in any relationship. But don't let it! It's crucial to explore new ways of being intimate with your partner. Share sexual fantasies, buy some sexy lingerie, take a bath together, or have an evening to just relax in bed with no TV or other distractions. Most of all, don't be afraid to try something new. This is the key to keeping things spicy!

3. Weekend Getaways

For some married couples, the weekend becomes the best time to keep to themselves, or run errands, or lounge around the house in their underwear watching TV. Some weekends that's fine, but otherwise, it's time to start planning some different activities. The best one is to plan a weekend getaway together. Some place fun that you can relax, do something different, and get away from the normal and familiar routine of where you live. It doesn't have to be expensive or really far away, even a night's stay at a hotel in your city can do wonders for the marriage.

4. Keep Laughing

Being in a marriage shouldn't be all serious. The whole point of being with someone is that they make you happy. When you think of them, you should smile. And smiling together is even better. Watch some comedy together, go see some funny movies, tell each other silly stories about friends or co-workers. Allow yourselves to relax and laugh at life rather than take things too seriously. It's important for your own individual happiness, but especially for your marriage. Just try not to laugh too much at each other!

5. Have Separate Interests

This may seem like it goes against #1, but rest assured that both are important. Taking a fun cooking class together is a great way to get out and share a joint interest. But it's just as important to have your own lives and continue to do the things you love individually. Some scoff at the idea of a married couple daring to do things as individuals, but this is in fact the healthier way to go. This allows you to spend time not only doing the things you love, but also giving you new and exciting things to talk about. It's boring to always be around someone that has nothing interesting to say! Plus, remember the old saying, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." You'll be more excited to see each other when you have both been off doing something else for a while.

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Friday, July 15, 2011

Three Things You Can Do To Make Your Partner Feel Appreciated

So often couples forget to make their partner feel appreciated. Everyone is so busy multi tasking that we start to take the most precious things in our lives for granted. We often treat our friends, colleagues, and even strangers, better than we treat our own partner. No wonder the divorce rate is so high. Tempers are boiling over, self esteem is at an all time low and frustration lingers day after day.
Here are some simple ways to make your partner feel appreciated. Not only will it make them feel great, but the positive energy and good feelings will have an affect on you as well.

For Women:

1. Stop nagging. When a woman is giving her man advice, or just voicing something as simple as, "I'm cold!" a man will often interpret that as nagging.  Men love a woman who is easy going and not complaining about every little thing. 

2. Compliment your man. Women are complimented all the time about their handbag, clothes, perfume, new hairstyle, etc. by everyone from their friends, to co-workers to the check out girl at the grocery store. Men are rarely complimented. Tell him how great his new haircut looks or how sexy he is in his new jeans and watch him smile from ear to ear.

3. Even if you are working just as hard as he is. Appreciate him by preparing him a nice, relaxing, romantic meal at least twice per week. One way to a man's heart really is through his stomach.

For Men:

1. Listen to her. Women not only love to talk, they need to talk. After a long day, a woman likes to go over everything and share what happened to her and get some things off her mind.  Men don't understand this, because the way a man unwinds after work is to grab a beer and watch the game, surf the net or go workout. They don't need to chat for an hour about their problems. Appreciate your partner by letting her talk. Just sit and listen, she is not looking for solutions, she just wants to be heard.

2. Surprise her with a little gift at least once per month. It can be small, but women love gifts. Even some hand picked flowers, a card, a candle, a new tube of lip gloss that you see at the check out stand will let her know that she is always on your mind. 

3. Thank her for the work she does around the house. Thank her for doing your laundry, walking the dog, cleaning up your breakfast dishes. Often these tedious tasks get no recognition and begin to feel like a burden.
The author of two dating advice books, Excuse Me, Your Soul Mate Is Waiting (Hampton Roads Publishing, 2008) and Good Date, Bad Date (Hampton Roads Publishing, 2009), her latest, Diary of a Beverly Hills Matchmaker (Bettie Youngs Books), was released in April of 2010.

Marla and Adolfo reside in blissful harmony in Los Angeles, where she continues to bring her considerable matchmaking expertise to bear on the singles population of star-studded Southern California while her talented husband serenades them with his own songs and music.

Tuesday, July 5, 2011

Don't Turn Up Your Nose at Online Dating Services!

By Chandler Jones 

Many people are looking for love and just wonder where to find it. They want to find someone they can share their lives with. 

Unfortunately, some have reached the point of desperation and are even willing to take extreme measures to find that special someone. But it isn't necessary! There are many online dating services that are available to help people find each other.

At one point I thought that dating services were for the desperate and just a way for their operators to make a quick buck. I thought that the only way for people to meet that special someone was to do it on their own. Now I think otherwise! Many people use the online dating services successfully when nothing else seemed to work, and are now happily married with children.

Of course, there are some shady and disreputable dating services out there, services that offer poor matching and are only interested in getting people's money while keeping them hooked on the hope of finding someone. Often, their services don't even have anyone available to find! 

However, I believe that such services are definitely in the minority. What's more, if you take your time to do your homework in researching the dating services that you are considering, you will greatly boost your odds of finding a great one. So be sure to ask your friends and the others you know who have used a dating service for their recommendations. The Internet is also a great resource for finding reviews and information.

Another important factor in successfully using any service is to understand yourself. Know what you want from a dating service and the type of person you would like to find. Understand yourself and know what you are passionate about. This will increase your chances of finding someone who shares your passions.

A dating service can be a great way to meet people with whom to explore romantic relationships. Just be clear on your expectations, do your research and proceed with caution before settling on a particular dating service.

If you feel unhappy and unfulfilled and are having difficulty finding your significant other, then don't turn your nose up at the use of an online dating service. If you do your research and take a few commonsense precautions, you have little to lose and everything to gain in your search for that special someone!

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Thursday, June 2, 2011

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